Frequently Asked Questions


FAQ –  My anger really gets in my way, how can I control it?

If this is you, do not feel alone as anger is a very common emotion. Anger is related to our past experiences and how we perceive these experiences. If  our  experience is remembered as a bad one it is more likely going to cause us anger some time in the future and often repeatedly, on and off.

Anger can also be caused as we do not agree with someone else. This usually is due to the fact that we place a different value on different things. What this means is that we can easily be in a position where we do not agree with someone or they don’t agree with us.

All of us get angry. Some of us get angry very often. Some of us are able to control the anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some of us also suppress it.  Is there any way to control the anger? And if so how do we do that?

There are several ways to address this in our personal development and some take more tima than others, however lets look at some.

We often get angry when someone stops us form doing something or when we don't get our way. We get angry when our desires or needs are not fulfilled, or when people don't agree to our viewpoint. Many times we get angry when we find our views at great variance with others and are not able to understand the other viewpoint and disagree with that as already mentioned.

A great activity to help us understand, can be a simple one. List your friends and think about a situation and imagine the reactions of each friend. For example, let us say that the situation is this - your friend is sitting in a restaurant and someone spills something hot on his/her lap unintentionally. Now imagine the reactions from all your friends on your list. You will find reactions that will vary quite a bit. You will see a friend of yours laughing it off and another friend calling the manager and making a big scene. You may even see another friend being so understanding, that even you may be surprised. The reactions are different because they are controlling their anger differently. How and why does this happen?

Some of us never take things very seriously. So these friends don't get angry over small things at all. That is the nature of these people. Often these people prefer to deal with bigger plans and bigger dreams so the smaller things are not given us much energy.

Can we use any techniques to control anger? Let us take a look. Do you react immediately, or think about what went wrong before reacting? Those of us who react spontaneously, get angry fast. Those who think about it before reacting are able to understand and control their emotions better. Why not count up to ten before reacting?

Understanding others viewpoint helps in many situations. As we have our viewpoint, so do others. Why try to enforce our thoughts on them? Why not at least try and understand what they think and why? If your boss is angry with you, you don’t have to react immediately. Give this some time and think about all the possible reasons and you may find the answer to his or her anger. This can also apply to your partner in your relationship. If at the end you realise that the anger was totally unjustified, you chose not to react angrily.

Emotions such as anger can be controlled. It needs reflection. It needs practice to exercise restraint and the more you do this the easier it becomes as you see results in yourself. Often we are punished by our anger not for our anger, as we later feel guilty for our actions.

Winning over your anger will allow you to be the real you, a better person. Controlling your anger means it does not control you.

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FAQ - How do I boost my self confidence and self esteem in order to improve my life

Everything we do in life begins with the information we have in our minds, our thoughts, our beliefs, our habits which ultimately result in our current behaviours and outcomes. Self -confidence and self- esteem allows a change in this information which allows us different results. If you are someone that wants to make a difference in this world, this can be very important.

Everybody would agree that with a little bit more self-confidence and self- esteem a person can elevate his self -worth. He or she can become a better person with more belief in his or her self. You can see the world in a whole new perspective and your self- confidence is a big factor in this change.

The benefits of boosting your self- confidence and self- esteem are endless, on the contrary lacking any amount of confidence can cripple you and imprison you  to a lacklustre life which is far removed from the life you want and crave. Most important here is that you can live your life and never realise your potential as well as your dreams. If you are not doing this and leading your life, it is extremely difficult to love your live and this is not truly living.

We need to lead, love and live, this is important. The true key to gaining self- confidence and self- esteem is to truly love and believe in yourself. For some people this is very difficult, especially if you grew up in an environment that was not supportive. A supportive environment must include  unconditional love and it turns out you cannot give what you do not have.

An important step to take is to stop and look deeper. In  which areas do you have your talent that you may have not ever acknowledged or you have not thought about for a long time. Focusing and developing on these areas will allow you to fully believe in your skills, your talents which is you. The more you see a part of your life you are good in, you can finally appreciate yourself and be proud. It is important here to shake of any other voices you may be hearing, your voice is the most important.

As you build your self- confidence and self- esteem, you will notice a change in your life and a further step to take is to challenge yourself slowly and gradually to improve this even further. The more challenges you conquer the better you will feel about yourself. You see it may not be obvious however confidence comes from challenges.

If you want to make a difference in this world, Confidence and belief in yourself is an essential ingredient.

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FAQ - Are there any real secrets to success?

Lots of people have asked me in the past, what do I need to do to succeed? Nad are there any secrets to success? I can say that there are no real secrets to success, its simply a matter of education and awareness.

Others have asked, do I need to be intelligent as everyone that succeeds is smarter than me, I can say with certainty that self- belief and education trumps any need for IQ.

As you head along a path to success, this means you are heading toward accomplishing your goals and dreams. If you feel there are secrets and you do not know them , this may affect your outcome. A secret is defined as something kept from public knowledge; something mysterious that is beyond general knowledge or understanding. If that were true then it would mean success is only possible for those few who have access to these secrets. Once again, I can say with certainty that success is available to all of us!

I always say, “Here you are today…there you are tomorrow. If you can decide and discover your tomorrow, why not do it today?”

The fact is you are what you believe you are and if you want to believe more , this can be changed. You can change your life by changing  the way you think about things and begin to make a difference in your life.

Decide to believe your life is going to be an exciting adventure and jump on board this adventure and be willing to learn all that is required to make this adventure a success. Decide to believe today is going to be better than yesterday and find out more about how you can do this. Decide to make a difference for someone else and you will make a difference for yourself as well, this can be a fantastic way of moving forward with your success.

There are no secrets to success, success is available to everyone. All you need is a desire, once you have this desire you can discover your success and do all the actions that will get you there. You need to say, I can and I will.

Everything you want is in your reach right now and you can make a difference!

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FAQ - I seem to procrastinate a lot, how do I stop this and achieve my goals?

Have you found yourself setting goals every year but eventually losing interest? Did you have every intention to make a difference by accomplishing your goals but then not following through? It is easy to get frustrated when this happens. Because of your frustration, it is less likely you will set any new goals the.

Don't let that happen. You can make a difference in your family or your community. Pursuing appropriate goals will help you do that. The problem may not have anything to do with setting goals. It may have everything to do with the goals you set. Ask yourself a question: Are your goals in alignment with your life purpose?

If not, it should be no surprise that you lose interest. You need to develop goals that are consistent with forwarding your purpose in life. When your goals are aligned with your passions, you are more likely to be persistent and accomplish them. Even through difficult times.

Often we set goals based on somebody else's purpose. You don't know what your life purpose is? Start today to determine what it is, this is very important. Until then, your goals will never have the meaning and excitement they will hold for you when they are aligned with your purpose.

There are many great books that can provide you a step-by-step method for realizing your life purpose.

Once you know your purpose, setting goals and prioritizing how you spend your time will be easier. You will also be surprised at how much you accomplish as your efforts and passions come together.

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FAQ - How do I overcome my fears and not let worries overwhelm me and control my life

Fear is the most crippling emotion and it prevents you from taking any required action. Furthermore fear is not even real, please let me explain. Fear is an emotion which appears real and there is an assumption associated with the fear. The assumption is that there is going to be more negative than positive consequences in the near future. This is not based on fact, simply based on emotion. The best way to understand this is to think about the fear of flying. The evidence of danger is completely absent as flying is one of the most safest form of transport.

What do you do when your worries and anxieties overwhelm you and you experience fear? Here is a brief list of actions that a person can use to help manage their worries, fear and anxieties.

Sometimes what we fear may happen can be overly exaggerated. A lot of times, our worrying can make the problem even worse. Remember that all the worrying in the world will not change anything. All you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, then and only then deal with it. If you did this you would find yourself actually dealing with the smallest proportion of what you actually worry about.

Fear results in negative thoughts and this is not supportive to our success. A good way to manage your worry is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When experiencing thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity. Try to see the facts not the emotions.

Most of what we worry about never comes true. Instead of worrying about something that probably won’t happen, concentrate on what you are able to do. This means that you get to do more of what is actually important to you instead of losing your time on worry.

When overwhelmed with worry, a person may encounter a lot of scary thoughts coming at them all at once. Instead of getting upset, remember that these thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. In fact brain science shows us if we can kerb this , we are certainly on our way.

Usually it is the fear behind the thoughts that gets us worked up. Ignore the fear behind these thoughts, and your worry should decrease.

When managing your fears and anxieties do not try to tackle everything at once. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

Sometimes it can be difficult to get rid of our fears and worries even when they overwhelm us. If nothing else works, take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. Doing something you enjoy can give you a fresh perspective on things.

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FAQ - What is happiness?

This is one of the most popular questions I am asked, it seems that there are so many of us looking for our interpretation of happiness. The truth is that happiness and how we define it is different for all of us. Not being aware of this simple fact is one of the largest problems and in turn often prevent us from being truly happy. I will explain further.

We think of ourselves as happy when we feel happy. At this time we are also going about our day and acting happy. We may not realise this however we think happy thoughts when what we value is being taken care of, when this is done we feel and act happy also. The important fact is, what we value is different amongst people and we often incorrectly assume that the same things make al people happy.

Are you happy? Many of us are not sure about that. As happiness cannot be defined so easily, most of us are going on and not living happily. That is the problem of the more modern and more complex world.

What is happiness?  When I say that I am feeling happy, it may mean that I just got something that I love. That makes me happy. Have you ever seen at the photographs of people who have won a big lottery? They look so happy. Meet them after few years, when they have already spent all their money, and you will find the same person may very well be very unhappy. A married couple looks happy while getting married, however you may meet them after few years in the divorce court and you will know that happiness is far gone.

Can we remain happy at all times? It is difficult, but one can surely try. Decide to smile and feel happy at all the times. Even if you learn that you have suffered a big loss, be happy. Sounds foolish? But this can be done as there is always a positive to be drawn from every situation. I agree it may not always be easy however what I can say with certainty it is worth the effort.

Unhappiness will never get you back what you feel you are missing, it may be getting the money back or the relationship back or something else. Happiness under all conditions will give you the confidence and strength to challenge all your obstacles and come out as a winner in your life.


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